Apr 13 2006
Love is blind, friendship isn’t
It is a total cliche for people to hear that ‘love is blind’. I don’t really have a lot of experience in this ‘love’ thing. But with my little experience, I’m going to compare between to of it.
Love
It’s surely an undescribable feeling that human own. Blood pumped out and for no reason or simply stupid reason such as - she is cute, or she is caring - a man says that he fall for a girl. That’s it. Might be too oversimple by me but as far as I concern, human being didn’t really choosy when it comes to a person they love compare to having friends.
Friends
This is the major discussion in my blog today. Although we’re not divided into pom-pom girls aka Plastic, nerd and jocks (sorry, too much addicted for One Tree Hill!), there is still gaps between people around us.
We could befriend with everyone but then we pick some few friends to enjoy our days. There’s nothing wrong about it,for sure, but do you realise that somehow we really care about our friends.
As for myself, this is few to-be-a-good-friend guideline that I somehow created invisibly:-
1. You’re not insulting me with trash and f word
2. You are not revealing my so-called secret and ashamed thing
3. You’re not asking me question that bother me
4. We have something in common
5. You’re interested in other topic which I’m not, you don’t talk to me about that topic for hours
6. You do not turn on radio or music when I am sleeping in my own room
7. You do not turn on stupid hip hop, or old rock songs from 60s to 90s when you’re in my room
8. And the list goes on….
My point is not about how choosy I am. And I don’t think I have friends based on the list. I just remind myself that some people who I hardly close with is when they don’t have the criteria above.
That’s why in some point, friendship could be scattered even if simple stupid thing happen - such as late of appointment (punctuality), forgot to ask your friend to go somewhere, borrowing something and do not give it back, or using your things everyday or do not turn off the light when it’s sleeping time.
While conflict involving love - mostly I heard from another people is conflict of jealousy, doesn’t care about heart and all. Find a friend who has a girlfriend or boyfriend. If you do any annoying thing that your friend’s partner always do, your friend would feel annoyed, because love is blind, friendship isn’t.
