Si Tenggang’s Homecoming

I just read Syikin’s (Math) blog. She wrote about love and all.

As she mentioned that it’s all based on her opinion, so I think I might have some different thought about what she said (or wrote actually).

She wrote

The theory goes like this:
If you have a guy/girl, do not give your body, heart, soul and emotions in total to him/her.

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In other word, when you love someone, don’t give him/her your soul,
body and emotions in total. But spare some in case he/she dump you.

In my point of view, I kinda agree that we shouldn’t love someone (refer to our so-called future soulmate) wholeheartedly AND stupidly. Like love for every single thing he/she does etc. But I guess it must not be easy to NOT to love wholeheartedly. It’s seems that while you’re crazy with someone, you are willing to give anything and everything (that supposely not crossing the line) to your partner. Love exist because of trust.

But then, everyone who is falling in love should realise that anything could happen in future. You might break up, lose interest or find someone new; as love may come and may fade.

I talked with one of my friend (not mentioning his name for privacy purpose). He said how women could nurture their heart to love a man. While man couldn’t. A man will only love a person who he’s in love with. Kinda confusing? I give you an example of myself. Even though I’m very close with one particular girl (let say Shila Debat), but I couldn’t nurture my heart to fall for her because I WAS not in love with her. But some girls could fall for me because I’m close to them (that’s TOTALLY an example) although they never interetested in me at the first place. Well, that’s what my friend said. I agree, neglecting minor case that may arise.

I told one of my friend, a girl, about love. Don’t love a guy because he treat you well. Don’t love a guy because he care about you. But love him for himself. Explanation : Some people misunderstand and questioning their partner for acting differently after getting married. Because he isn’t romantic anymore. I say, that’s because be realistic! You live with someone, so you couldn’t expect he’s doing the same thing he did before getting married. That’s the real him. Doesn’t mean he was pretending but an analogy here : - You stay at your house for 3 months. Your mom wouldn’t care about your favourite food. You goes to oversea and back for a week. Everyday you’ll have your favourite lunch. In both cases, your mom loves you the same. Back to the discussion, that’s it. He might not show you how much he cares but he still love you the same (or may be even more or might be lesser)

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