Si Tenggang’s Homecoming

First of all, thanks to Fariz (x-USM Transkrian, x-roommate KMPP) yang telah menggenapkan bilangan komen blog aku kepada setengah ribu.

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Dan juga kepada kengkawan yang lain yang keep leaving their comments here. Walaupun kengkadang aku tak balas balik komen, please know that I always smile reading it (sbb so far takde la orang yang melaser dalam komen).
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Aku di stesen West Drayton tengah hari tadi, tiba-tiba dapat satu sms dari kawan aku di Malaysia, ada problem besar katanya. Aku bagitau la yang aku kat luar, tak dapat nak call dan bincang. Sesampainya aku di stesen Paddington, Central London, aku dapat mesej dia mengatakan yang dia dah deal sikit problem tu.
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Aku tersenyum ketika berjalan menuruni tangga, dalam perjalanan ke line Jubilee dari line Circle. There is something about support that I usually miss the point.
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It’s something natural when we crossover people asking for help. Physical help is something. Emotional assist is something more. Ada juga beberapa orang yang mengadu masalah diorang kepada aku, tapi entah kenapa, aku tidak dapat menilai dengan adil. Ada prejudis dan sebagainya.
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Ada beberapa orang lagi yang aku sangat bersedia untuk mendengar.
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Tertanya-tanya aku, apa aku ni berat sebelah ke?
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I just realize, the capability of sharing some problems is only when we are connected to the person we talk to. We feel like we are capable of giving the advice or sayings that can make the other feel comfortable.
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Simple example, let say I’m whining about my study, having a hard time and so on; and then you say, ‘come on, get a grip. Peluang ni bukan mudah nak dapat. Bersyukur la sikit’. I say that you are missing a point. I say that you are not connected to me in that sense. That is just a mere example. Jika ter’relate’ dengan mana-mana pihak, hanyalah satu kebetulan yang mungkin disengajakan.
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A person who is connected to me (we are still talking of the previous example) will see that I am whining because I need some support. That’s all about it.
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What’s the point of the previous paragraphs? Simple, in order to get the support you needed, you have to tell the right person or else you may ended up wounded thinking that a person doesn’t care about you.
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It goes on the different level. A common friend is someone you can tell that you feel sick, or require some physical help. Like telling that you have a headache and need a ride to the clinic, or asking for some hands to move the box to the car. You may not be able to share your concern towards your complicated backstabbing life.
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Close friends is someone you seek for help physically and emotionally. Sharing some thoughts over your future, asking the opinion whether you choosing the right girl and telling your study or money problems. This kind of friend will not say that, ‘yeah, she is hot, go for it’ or ‘toksahlah, aku rasa hang tak sesuai la dengan dia sebab bla bla bla’. This kind of friend will mostly listen and go with, ‘well, if you think this is good for you…’. Sure la kalo kes2 yang obviously wrong, they are gonna say it, but they won’t turn out to be the annoying person.
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So going further into the topics, looking for partner is seeking for more support than ever. Some to click on the different level. For example, when I tell a girl about…….
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…..tetiba mata rasa mengantuk. Nak masuk tido. Biarlah tak habis tulis pun. Sekali sekala kan?

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